All or Nothing Early on, I have acknowledged and accepted my submission. For the longest time, I craved having a sexual Dominant male in my life. In my dreams, I would give up everything. Without a clear picture of how this would impact my life, I wanted to surrender my …
First coming across the subject of submission can be intimidating. The idea of giving up control may turn you on, but what does this mean in real life? Should I submit to every dominant person I meet? Will I lose all of my personality? Do my wishes even count? I’m …
Is BDSM Dangerous? The mainstream media depict BDSM as something highly dangerous. You see people with mascara-stricken faces with tears in their eyes. The emphasis is on latex, leather hoods, cuffs, whips, clamps. And yet, I don’t see BDSM as strictly dangerous. You seek limits, sure, so you might get …
Power + Trust + Fun The general idea people have of BDSM is that it’s dark, leather, and whips. That’s what you see in the media, for example in a crime show like CSI and Criminal Minds. Also, in Fifty Shades of Grey, the depiction of BDSM is quite dark …
Degrading, Normal or Kinky This is a tough subject for me. I don’t always recognize what is humiliating and what isn’t. After all, it’s a complex emotion, and with how I’ve been raised, I don’t know exactly which things are considered to be ‘normal’ or ‘regular kinky’ and which aren’t. …
The Need for Connection I’m not a group person. I prefer one on one contact so that I can make a genuine connection and talk in-depth with the other person. So why did I feel the need to join the local BDSM community? Like real life, with real people? Being …
Tell me about … Trust I don’t trust. Anyone. Ever. So there you have it. End of story. I don’t trust anyone, not strangers, not people close to me, not even myself. But I am married, in a 24/7 D/s relationship with my husband who’s also my Dominant and I …
Soul’s Desire by Melanie Gill My rating: 3 of 5 stars It’s Dark and Erotic, but the D/s is unhealthy Soul’s Desire – Melanie Gill Hmm, I’m conflicted about this book. It’s labeled in the genres: dark romance, paranormal romance, and erotic romance and so I figured there was little …
What I Really Really Like This week’s prompt for the Erotic Journal Challenge is: What turns you on? The topic piqued my interest. Because, since I’m working as good as full-time on sexual topics, it actually took me quite some time to come up with the answer to this question. …
From Nothing to Weekly When I met my Dominant and now husband, ten years ago, spanking was on my hard-limit list. We bought a crop together, but I would not allow him to do much more than soft stroking or tapping with it. Nowadays, spankings are on our weekly menu …
