Content Warning: This post deals with subjects of (fictional) sexual abuse and exploitation Tell me About…Objectification Four years ago, my husband and I were in contact with a male submissive, the one who ghosted me as described here. He told us numerous times his biggest fetish was objectification. So, in …
Friends were my theme of 2019. I joined the BDSM community, and I discovered why I hadn’t been able to make friends for over twenty years: kink. I had several best friends during my high school years, but we connected over different things than sexuality. We had a similar lifestyle, …
Tell me About … Pain Everyone’s Emotions I’m an empath. I carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. I can read about a child with a severe disease, and it can literally ruin my day because I feel so sad for the child and its family. Yesterday my …
Only one more day of relaxation, Lindy mused while she was folding the laundry. Tomorrow she would have to go back to work. The first day after the holidays always seemed the hardest. Her holidays had been great, spending time with family. The other days of her time off, she …
2009-2019 I don’t make resolutions. I’m convinced if there’s something that you want to change in your life, you should do so at that moment. Don’t wait until the first of January to better your ways. However, there was one time I did make resolutions. I remember being at my …
Days Filled with Sex Something that has always boggled me is that I never dream of sex. I mean, I’m a sex blogger, erotica writer, I test sex toys, but the times I have dreamt of having intercourse during sleep is less than five. And even then, I often got …
Control and Trust Being a submissive, I give up control. That’s kind of in the job description. But it’s not that easy, nor that straightforward. Because tied to control is trust. You can only give up control unless you trust the person you’re handing it over to. Or, as in …
Bleak House When this year started, life was bleak. I quit my day job and moved to another part of the country three years ago. My life was instantly better, but it was hard to adjust to my new, free life. No more set times for work, no one giving …
Free in Many Ways Right now I’m the freest I have ever been in my life. I have walked away from the job that was controlling my life. I have cut ties with friends who brought more drama than joy. I am no longer bound to restrictive family members. Free …
Weekend Fun Last weekend I was at a rope event. Bear in mind that I am new to the off-line BDSM-world. All I’ve ever done with bondage was at home. Ninety per cent of the time was in the comfort of the bedroom. I love attending these peer-ropes. I’m still …
