Should you quit your day job and pursue your greatest dream? After all, I did. It’s not that easy, though. And for us, me and my husband, we thought about it for many years. We discussed it, considered it, did the calculations to see if we would make it without my income. Then we discussed it some more and did even more calculations. And only then, several years later, did we take the step. I quit my day job, we moved to the other side of the country where rent is cheaper, and I began writing. So was that a courageous thing to do?
Living From Truths
What was tremendously important to me was that I wanted to live from my truths. While I was working in a supermarket, I was constantly stepping on my truths and my limits. I had to tell lies to customers. Anything I might disagree with, I had to swallow to follow the company’s policies and not lose my job. I couldn’t be honest, and I most definitely couldn’t be myself, not entirely. Everything I post on my blog comes from me, from my true self. It is why I write reviews, to tell other people my opinion. Overall, I feel a lot better knowing I am developing myself. I’m growing as a person.
So should I just take the big jump and tell my boss I’m not returning tomorrow? No, definitely not. Not only is it wise to plan ahead financially, but also consider what it is you’re going to be doing. Maybe your hobby is a hobby for that reason. It’s nice to step away from your main activities and play that video game or make that painting, but would you want to do it all day, every day? Do you love it so much you want to dedicate your life to it?
I struggle with this. I love writing, and I get restless when I’ve not written in a long time. But it’s equally hard to have to sit down and write a sexy story, even when I’m not really feeling it. Or when writing a review can become a chore, no matter how much I love sex toys. Often when this comes up for me, I think: well, I like this better than working the cash register. But writing is definitely less fun for me than when I did it only in my spare time.
The final point is: Don’t let fear hold you back. Fear prevents you from taking unnecessary risks, but sometimes you gotta bite through it and come out stronger on the other side. It’s only healthy to be afraid of changing your life in such a drastic manner. That’s why you have to be prudent. Make the calculations. How long can you make it with the money you have? What plans do you have for your future income? Do you have a back-up plan?
My husband and I chose to rely on his income. We deemed it stable enough for us both to live comfortably on. I’m still not making any money, at least not substantial enough to mention. So we do make sacrifices. We don’t go on any holidays. We don’t own a luxury car. (Well, actually we do, but it’s a 2004 model :p) I was terrified before moving here, but I’m glad we did it the way we did.
So should you quit your day job and pursue your dreams? After you’ve gone over everything and you’re still sure this is what you want, then yes. I can’t stress it enough:
- Be prudent about it.
- Consider all the options, good and bad.
- Have a back-up plan.
Has changing my life made it better for me? Yes. Wholeheartedly yes.
I have often lamented the fact I wasn’t ‘normal’ and couldn’t just enjoy my retail work. Turn out, I’m better off someplace else. Somewhere I can share my gift of writing with other people. It makes my life more fulfilled which makes me happier overall. It’s not easy. Definitely not. But I wouldn’t have wanted to miss it.