Married Life

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Photo by Lana Abie on Unsplash

My husband and I are in a happy marriage with a healthy sex life. We both masturbate separately from one another.

To some people that would seem incongruous. To me, it’s not. I think it keeps up both sane. It releases pressure when needed. We’re two different people, and we’re not always feeling sexy at the same moment. So why would masturbation be wrong?

Solo Play

For an early age, I’ve had sexual fantasies. It wasn’t until I was eighteen when I started to masturbate. And no, I’m not just saying that to make it a legal age for my blog. Before that time, I really didn’t know what to do.
After I got my first vibrator and my first orgasm, I never stopped. One way or another, I would pleasure myself and reach an orgasm.


Before the lockdown, I masturbated roughly once a week. I did this usually on a Monday afternoon, while my husband was at work. It felt like a re-ignition of my sexuality every time. Often I went: Oh right, that’s what it feels like. It was like I was returning to my most authentic self, to the most essential part of me.

At the moment, my sexual need is satisfied with loads of bondage and spankings by my husband, so I’m not left wanting. But, strictly regarding my private time, I can’t wait for my husband to leave for the office again.


Speaking of my husband, I know he masturbates. I’m often out of bed before him, and I know he uses this time to pleasure himself. I don’t know the specifics, as he doesn’t often share them. He just drops snippets of information now and then, mentioning a towel that needs to be washed. Sometimes he gives me a short review of a toy I bought for him.

Male Sex Toys

My man was always jealous of the fact that ninety per cent of the sex toys on the market are for women. This past year he has tried masturbation eggs and sleeves, but nothing really wowed him. It was nice but not much more than that. And then I received a sex doll to review.

Sex Doll

Instead of having only a fake vagina to hold, the doll consists of an entire torso with boobs and everything. What a difference this made!
As he describes it, he started his session just as he would with only a sleeve. But when his hand got hold of the doll’s hips, wow, all his instincts went live and were like: Procreate, we must procreate with this human-like creature! And it led to his best masturbation-with-toy orgasm ever.

No Jealousy

I’m honestly happy for him that he had such a positive experience with a toy. I own dozens of different models, and I’m always excited when a new format is released that I enjoy.
The reason I don’t feel jealousy is multifold. It makes my life easier when he has had his release on days when I’m not in the mood. I know how much my alone-time means to me, so I want him to have the same experience. And since I can’t give him penis-in-vagina-sex, I’m glad a doll can give him somewhat of a similar experience.

Masturbation is Normal

Masturbation is a regular occurrence in our household, and I’m confident it improves both our lives. I know having an orgasm makes me feel more relaxed and makes me less bitchy and cranky overall. I know it mellows my husband too. So in times when we can’t give what the other wants, I think it’s a perfect addition. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to worry about. I only wish we could do it more often 😉

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  1. I enjoyed reading this post and was interested in what you said about the weekly masturbation feeling that it ignited your sexuality. I have been wondering about that. missy x

  2. I think masturbation is normal too. I sometimes say when we are in bed ” i am going to masturbate now ” and often he will help out or I get on with I love watching him masturbate. He just uses his hand but it fascinates me to watch and see how he uses his hand – if u see what i mean. We also watch porn together etc. Sometime I fel we are more like a couple of geezers 😉

    1. That sounds fantastic ? It sounds like you’ve found the perfect balance.
      I’m always confused when I see magazine articles ‘Help, I found my husband watching porn.’ What’s the problem exactly? I know my husband likes to watch Chaturbate as a distraction. Well, good for him. Why exactly should that bother me or make me jealous?


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