BDSM Impact Play and the Mind

Spanking as Domestic Discipline

Picture of a cane, a belt and a paddle as illustration to a blog post about spanking

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As I described in this post about spanking, I’ve come to love impact play. We’ve added spankings to our regular play. And yet it’s still difficult for me to submit to a spanking, or even worse, ask for them. Why is it so hard, and what is going through my mind?

Delicious Pain and Pleasure

During a perfect spanking, when all parameters are right, it’s an excellent experience for both my Dominant and myself. I will strip, take my place and accept what’s being done to me. It hurt, of course, but I’m able to take it in and deal with it. I try not to worry about the ‘why’ too much, but just accept it and ride the pain. Before I know it, my pussy is already glistening with wetness. My Dominant is very good at mixing pain with pleasure, which leads me to even greater heights.

Asking for One

Spankings are addictive. There are times when I crave one. This is often inspired by clips of someone being spanked like I see on my Twitter feed.
If the circumstances are all right, I’ll go to my Dominant and ask for one.
It’s an extremely humiliating thing to do. And then, after the first blow, I wonder why for god’s sake did I ask for this pain? What is wrong with me?
But as the spanking continues, I sink into the sensations, and I submit.

Not Always There

And what if it just isn’t there? A few times, my Dominant initiated a spanking, but for me, the feeling wasn’t there. I would bite through it. I’m a submissive after all, I can take it. But, apart from getting wet, there would be little response from me. This didn’t make it enjoyable for either my husband or for me, and he would soon stop the endeavour. It’s gotta be enjoyable for both of us.

Why oh Why

So yes, I struggle with my addiction to spankings. I need them, I want them, but while they’re happening, I question my sanity. It’s not an easy kink to digest, that’s for sure. But even today, it has been a while since we last did a serious spanking. So, I guess I should ask for one soon.


Also check out my latest sex toy review on the ‘El Bastardo’ Cane by Mchurt.eu:

https://www.lizxlikes.com/review-mchurt-eu-el-bastardo-the-most-evil-cane-ever/


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6 Comments

  1. I feel the same as you about the pain and pleasure part and I pretty much need both for it to work. I am also interested in what you say about the headspace because that has happened to me too and it is good to know that I am not alone. Thank you. missy x

    1. It’s what I love most about our community, sharing these experiences. When you’re just with the two of you, sometimes you wonder if you’re crazy. Turns out, there are many people like us out there 😁

      Lizblackx

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