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There are many ways pleasure can be used in one’s life. For me, it’s something I always return to, even in my darkest of times. Maybe not when I’m in the middle of something terrible, but I’ll return to it as soon as possible. It’s fun, it’s relaxing and best of all: it’s free. This is what pleasure offers me in different parts of my life:


Something I had slightly forgotten, but what the current Covid19 crisis has reminded me of, is my ability to watch porn and use that as a perfect distraction. At the moment my favourite website is I only scroll through the images. The pleasant buzz this gives me is perfect. I can even lose track of time and completely immerse myself in all things sexual. This type of pleasure is close to masturbation, but it’s more mental than physical, at least when used as foreplay.


Once I get to the real self-pleasure, for me, this can bring pure relaxation. In my daily life, I have trouble letting go and relaxing in general. Masturbating with my favourite toy is a perfect way for me to relax. I also have used it to relax before sleep. This doesn’t work all the time, but it does bring me in a mellower mindset than my usual worrying mind.


You might think this is the same topic as relaxation, but it’s not entirely. I have talked about it earlier, in this topic, but sometimes we use pain play, which brings both of us pleasure, as a way to relieve stress. There are days when I’m too stuck in everything around me, and a good spanking can reset things and return me to a happier mindset. It’s not a permanent solution, but it does offer some release.

For Fun

Now I don’t want you thinking I walk around the house stressed out all the time, crying my eyes out and fingering myself for distraction. It’s not that bad. Sometimes we have sex with the accompanying pleasure just for fun. Just because we can. Because no matter what people might say, sex is great and feels good. It brings my husband and me closer together, and the release of endorphins is always welcome.



  1. I envy you for being able to use sex/masturbation for relaxation and stress-relief. My brain is too rattled to even think about fingering myself haha. The “for fun” part though, yes, definitely!

    1. Thanks, it’s a skill I taught myself when I was living alone. I would tell myself: stop worrying, focus on sex things. And ever since, I consciously use masturbation as relaxation. I call it my porn-therapy ?


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