All or Nothing Early on, I have acknowledged and accepted my submission. For the longest time, I craved having a sexual Dominant male in my life. In my dreams, I would give up everything. Without a clear picture of how this would impact my life, I wanted to surrender my …
First coming across the subject of submission can be intimidating. The idea of giving up control may turn you on, but what does this mean in real life? Should I submit to every dominant person I meet? Will I lose all of my personality? Do my wishes even count? I’m …
Virgos Virgos are down to earth, tidy and well-organized. Another prominent feature is perfectionism. I don’t identify with all these characteristics (clean house, where?), but I’m definitely a perfectionist. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been one. I think some of it has to do with how I’ve …
Is BDSM Dangerous? The mainstream media depict BDSM as something highly dangerous. You see people with mascara-stricken faces with tears in their eyes. The emphasis is on latex, leather hoods, cuffs, whips, clamps. And yet, I don’t see BDSM as strictly dangerous. You seek limits, sure, so you might get …
Silence I come from a family of non-talkers, on both sides actually. We would talk about our day. We would talk about the music we liked, the movies we watched, where to go on vacation. But don’t you dare talk about your inner life. We didn’t share our ailments, our …
Degrading, Normal or Kinky This is a tough subject for me. I don’t always recognize what is humiliating and what isn’t. After all, it’s a complex emotion, and with how I’ve been raised, I don’t know exactly which things are considered to be ‘normal’ or ‘regular kinky’ and which aren’t. …
When I Grow Up I have this one family member who, according to the stories, had only one dream of what she wanted to do when she grew up. She wanted to be a teacher. So that’s what she studied. After her studies, she worked as a teacher for many …
ASMR A couple years back, I was searching online for ways how to structure a diary with blank pages. I came across one tutorial which explained everything that I had in mind. But the weird thing was, the girl explained it all using this strange whispery voice. For the life …
All Mistakes are Evil Mistakes and I aren’t the best of friends. I was raised with the concept that all mistakes are wrong, and should be avoided at all cost. I remember taking dictation in primary school and writing ‘professor’ with two ‘f’s. The spelling is the same in Dutch …
Pantser All the Way I’m a pantser by heart. Ever since I started to write fiction, I just dove in and wrote the story to my heart’s content. I let my characters show me the story. For the longest time, this worked perfectly. Until I decided to write a whodunnit …
