Degrading, Normal or Kinky This is a tough subject for me. I don’t always recognize what is humiliating and what isn’t. After all, it’s a complex emotion, and with how I’ve been raised, I don’t know exactly which things are considered to be ‘normal’ or ‘regular kinky’ and which aren’t. …
When I Grow Up I have this one family member who, according to the stories, had only one dream of what she wanted to do when she grew up. She wanted to be a teacher. So that’s what she studied. After her studies, she worked as a teacher for many …
ASMR A couple years back, I was searching online for ways how to structure a diary with blank pages. I came across one tutorial which explained everything that I had in mind. But the weird thing was, the girl explained it all using this strange whispery voice. For the life …
All Mistakes are Evil Mistakes and I aren’t the best of friends. I was raised with the concept that all mistakes are wrong, and should be avoided at all cost. I remember taking dictation in primary school and writing ‘professor’ with two ‘f’s. The spelling is the same in Dutch …
Pantser All the Way I’m a pantser by heart. Ever since I started to write fiction, I just dove in and wrote the story to my heart’s content. I let my characters show me the story. For the longest time, this worked perfectly. Until I decided to write a whodunnit …
Lack of Confidence When I sat down to write an article about this topic, I came to one overarching fear: Fear of Failure. Yes, with capital letters. However, when I wrote the outline, the subject changed to something else, something even broader. What holds me back most in life, is …
The Need for Connection I’m not a group person. I prefer one on one contact so that I can make a genuine connection and talk in-depth with the other person. So why did I feel the need to join the local BDSM community? Like real life, with real people? Being …
Bedroom Only Coming from an abusive youth, I never thought I’d like spankings, but I do. In the bedroom, that is. Several times we have tried to do spankings in the living room, but almost every time I freaked out, and we had to stop. It’s just the two of …
I Need Your Blood After covering the genres ‘teacher-student‘, ‘rock stars‘ and ‘bimbos,’ I thought I was done describing my genres. I soon discovered there is one more, and it is an important one to me too: Vampires. No, not the sparkly ones from the Twilight universe, but the blood-craving …
Tell me about … Trust I don’t trust. Anyone. Ever. So there you have it. End of story. I don’t trust anyone, not strangers, not people close to me, not even myself. But I am married, in a 24/7 D/s relationship with my husband who’s also my Dominant and I …
