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So, you’ve decided that you want to embark on a journey into the world of Domestic Discipline? Well, congratulations! This can be an incredibly rewarding and fun experience, but it’s important to start off on the right foot. In this article, we’ll discuss the basics of Domestic Discipline, including how to get started and how to maintain a healthy DD relationship.

The first step is finding a partner who is interested in exploring Domestic Discipline with you. This can be tricky, as not everyone is open to the idea of spanking and other forms of punishment. However, with patience and perseverance, you should be able to find someone who is willing to give it a try.

Once you’ve found your partner, the next step is setting up some ground rules.

Before you can start to discipline your partner, and impose rules, you have to agree on the basics. One of these is to agree on a safe word. This is a word that your partner can use to indicate to you that they are about to be disciplined. This way, you can avoid disciplining your partner if they are feeling too uncomfortable.

What Is Domestic Discipline?

Domestic Discipline is a type of BDSM that involves the use of physical punishment to enforce boundaries. It’s usually used within the context of a relationship, and it can be used by one partner to discipline the other or by both partners to enforce their own boundaries.

There are a variety of ways that the spanking can be administered. The spanker can use their hand or a hand-held implement to strike the bottom. The most common method is to use a belt or cane. In some cases, the spanker can use another implement to administer the spanking, such as a paddle or cane.

You may find that you don’t always want to spank your partner. That’s ok! One of the best parts of DD is that it’s not mandatory. In some cases, you may find that you simply want to have them feel a little pain, but don’t want to actually punish them.

Although you can use any number of implements to administer your punishment, there are some things to consider. First of all, it’s important to use a modicum of caution. You don’t want to cause permanent damage. Secondly, you want to make sure that you’re using a suitable implement.

Getting Started

First thing to do is to get a read on your partner and what they like and don’t like. It is worthwhile getting them to write a few things down for you. You may not realise what your partner likes and it will help you to choose the right thing to do.

If you are unsure of what to do, look at the following:

  • Do you want the discipline to involve spankings or maybe household chores? 
  • Are you going to use implements or just hands?
  • If you are going to use implements, what kind of implements do you have?
  • What kind of implements do you prefer?

Once you’ve found out what kind of discipline you want to do, you need to choose an implement. There are a few different points to consider.

Remember that you are working with a partner, and you need to keep in mind what they can and cannot handle. If their feelings are not taken into account, this can get out of hand very quickly.

Spanking 101

Photo by Dainis Graveris on Unsplash
Photo by Dainis Graveris on Unsplash

When spanking your partner, it’s good to use a firm implement that you can control. This will allow you to administer a maximum amount of pain without causing permanent damage.

Here are a few things to consider when choosing your implement:

  • Choose something that you know how to use safely.
  • Choose something that you can handle with one hand.
  • Choose something that will be effective.
  • Choose something that’s comfortable to use.

Goals

The goals in a Domestic Discipline agreement within a relationship will vary from couple to couple. You may want to strengthen your bond. Perhaps you want to have more D/s in your daily life. As long as you both agree to it, living a DD lifestyle will improve your relationship and will make you both happier. Dealing with the first time

Many people will be nervous about their first time, with good reason. However, this can be a very exciting and rewarding experience. Your partner will look to you to provide a safe, loving, and loving environment.

When you contact your partner, you should explain to them the reason you want to try this. Explain that you want to try this because you’ve decided that it will be an enjoyable experience for you both.

You should also agree on a safe word.

The goals may be the following:

1.To have fun, we don’t want this to be a chore or a bother.

2.To be honest, we don’t want to be dishonest.

3.To be respectful, we want to be treated with respect.

4.To please, we want to please our partner.

6.To be healthy.

7.To be clean.

8.To be honest.

9.To be responsible.

10.To be safe.

11.To be more open.

How To Handle Consent Within Domestic Discipline

You must be sure that the other partner understands the risks involved and it is a good idea to explain why you are asking for consent.

Rules

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The rules within a Domestic Discipline BDSM relationship will be different for everyone. Today’s world can be hectic and living in a DD dynamic can give you both stability and safety. It is important that you both abide by the rule you have agreed upon. 

Examples of rules within a Domestic Discipline relationship are :

  • The house must be clean
  • The house is a safe place
  • No violent language
  • No lying
  • No cheating
  • Not doing things that upset your partner

Discipline

Domestic Discipline within a BDSM relationship is about how you want to impose this into your life and deal with the consequences of this arrangement. Ways to apply discipline within a BDSM relationship :

Punishment is important within domestic discipline because it gives you control over your partner and it’s a way of dealing with them. In a domestic discipline relationship, you will be many times more strict with your partner than you would be with someone that you are not close to. The discipline that you impose will be much greater. It can create a better bond between you.

Maintenance

This is the maintenance of the rules. The rules may be written down or verbally agreed. They should be written down and then stored in a safe place so you both know where they are. Also, if you have a written agreement that is not being followed, do not rely on the verbal agreement but look at what is written. We all forget, we forget things, and if you have to have the rule enforced or taken out clause, then have the rule in writing.

Is Domestic Discipline Safe?

Yes, there are people who feel that Domestic Discipline is an extremely risky form of play. These people feel that Domestic Discipline can involve injuries. These people are wrong.

There have been many studies of Domestic Discipline, most of these have been done on single and married couples. There have been no reports of any injury to either person, whilst they have been playing.

The studies show that Domestic Discipline is safe, the studies show that it is a healthy form of play. It does not cause injuries to either partner and it does not involve any abuse.

How Will Domestic Discipline Improve Your Life?

Domestic Discipline can be a very rewarding and healthy form of play.

Domestic Discipline can be a very rewarding and healthy form of play. It can improve your relationship, make you feel more in control, help you to relax, and will help you to keep a safe, healthy environment for your partner.

Be honest, be open, and be respectful.

Also, be forgiving, be open, and be honest.

If you have been given a safe word, use it.

If you have been disciplined, accept it. You both agreed to this lifestyle so now you will have to make it work.

Domestic Discipline is a healthy form of play.

Summary

Domestic Discipline is a healthy form of play, which can help you get to know your partner better. It can improve your relationship, make you feel more in control, and will help you to keep a safe, healthy environment for your partner.

IT’S NOT A GAME

Before you can begin, you need to have a goal. You need to know what you want to achieve. You will decide what you want to achieve together and you will work towards that goal.

Domestic Discipline is a healthy form of play, which can help you to get to know your partner better. It helps you to feel more in control, helps you to relax, and will help you to keep a healthy environment for your partner.

Domestic Discipline is not a game, it’s not a pastime, and it’s not something to be entered into lightly. It can be done in a safe, respectful way.

Domestic Discipline is a lifestyle, and it is serious.

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