No Hugs, Just Spanking I’m one of the most unromantic people in the world. That’s why I decided to take this challenge when I saw this meme. In all fairness, I push my husband away more often than that I show affection. I don’t do hugs, cuddles, and random kisses. …
All or Nothing Early on, I have acknowledged and accepted my submission. For the longest time, I craved having a sexual Dominant male in my life. In my dreams, I would give up everything. Without a clear picture of how this would impact my life, I wanted to surrender my …
Virgos Virgos are down to earth, tidy and well-organized. Another prominent feature is perfectionism. I don’t identify with all these characteristics (clean house, where?), but I’m definitely a perfectionist. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been one. I think some of it has to do with how I’ve …
Silence I come from a family of non-talkers, on both sides actually. We would talk about our day. We would talk about the music we liked, the movies we watched, where to go on vacation. But don’t you dare talk about your inner life. We didn’t share our ailments, our …
Degrading, Normal or Kinky This is a tough subject for me. I don’t always recognize what is humiliating and what isn’t. After all, it’s a complex emotion, and with how I’ve been raised, I don’t know exactly which things are considered to be ‘normal’ or ‘regular kinky’ and which aren’t. …
When I Grow Up I have this one family member who, according to the stories, had only one dream of what she wanted to do when she grew up. She wanted to be a teacher. So that’s what she studied. After her studies, she worked as a teacher for many …
All Mistakes are Evil Mistakes and I aren’t the best of friends. I was raised with the concept that all mistakes are wrong, and should be avoided at all cost. I remember taking dictation in primary school and writing ‘professor’ with two ‘f’s. The spelling is the same in Dutch …
Lack of Confidence When I sat down to write an article about this topic, I came to one overarching fear: Fear of Failure. Yes, with capital letters. However, when I wrote the outline, the subject changed to something else, something even broader. What holds me back most in life, is …
The Need for Connection I’m not a group person. I prefer one on one contact so that I can make a genuine connection and talk in-depth with the other person. So why did I feel the need to join the local BDSM community? Like real life, with real people? Being …
Bedroom Only Coming from an abusive youth, I never thought I’d like spankings, but I do. In the bedroom, that is. Several times we have tried to do spankings in the living room, but almost every time I freaked out, and we had to stop. It’s just the two of …
